tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-405228310930101073.post3711371065861942540..comments2023-06-16T10:12:31.746-04:00Comments on SHE Says: Late for a Very Important Date~she~http://www.blogger.com/profile/00517811416862125834noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-405228310930101073.post-71804859104145523372014-02-17T04:11:59.191-05:002014-02-17T04:11:59.191-05:00Well....the car pool situation sounds really good....Well....the car pool situation sounds really good. It's nice to have a day or two off, so you certainly wouldn't want to do anything that would jeopardize the arrangement. <br /><br />I'm thinking that I would talk to the girl directly--she's in 9th grade so she should be able to understand what you're getting at. Tell her that you'd appreciate it if she'd hustle out to the car on the two (or three) days per week that you pick her up. I wouldn't even say "not meaning to inconvenience you" as suggested in the previous comment. She's the child, you're the adult, her job is to comply with your requirements/wishes. But you can say it to her nicely. If she doesn't comply, I'd go to the mom one more time and just explain that if she doesn't get to the car quickly, you won't be able to continue the car pool. If she does comply I'd be sure to express my appreciation at least once. <br /><br />I think letting it go and doing nothing is just teaching her that she's in control, which is really the wrong message, and it causing you unnecessary angst.<br /><br />Good luck.<br /><br />Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08998889466596184258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-405228310930101073.post-75431391143862566672014-02-17T04:11:58.023-05:002014-02-17T04:11:58.023-05:00Well....the car pool situation sounds really good....Well....the car pool situation sounds really good. It's nice to have a day or two off, so you certainly wouldn't want to do anything that would jeopardize the arrangement. <br /><br />I'm thinking that I would talk to the girl directly--she's in 9th grade so she should be able to understand what you're getting at. Tell her that you'd appreciate it if she'd hustle out to the car on the two (or three) days per week that you pick her up. I wouldn't even say "not meaning to inconvenience you" as suggested in the previous comment. She's the child, you're the adult, her job is to comply with your requirements/wishes. But you can say it to her nicely. If she doesn't comply, I'd go to the mom one more time and just explain that if she doesn't get to the car quickly, you won't be able to continue the car pool. If she does comply I'd be sure to express my appreciation at least once. <br /><br />I think letting it go and doing nothing is just teaching her that she's in control, which is really the wrong message, and it causing you unnecessary angst.<br /><br />Good luck.<br /><br />Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08998889466596184258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-405228310930101073.post-12798375291852365542014-02-13T13:01:48.522-05:002014-02-13T13:01:48.522-05:00I'm taking it that she is the 9th grader. It w...I'm taking it that she is the 9th grader. It wouldn't be inappropriate to bring it up with her in a non-confrontational way, "Not meaning to inconvienience you, but we need you to come out right away." Or explain to Mom that little girl's extracurricular activities are causing enough of a problem that you are considering stopping the carpooling. It may inconvienience Mom to stop carpooling more than you. It's never a comfortable thing to have to nix someone's selfish behavior, but if you don't you have to live with it.Lisa https://www.blogger.com/profile/09324961653370110887noreply@blogger.com