tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-405228310930101073.post3820193096392093343..comments2023-06-16T10:12:31.746-04:00Comments on SHE Says: Questioning Myself~she~http://www.blogger.com/profile/00517811416862125834noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-405228310930101073.post-48523913290164169912011-10-22T01:04:41.579-04:002011-10-22T01:04:41.579-04:00I wouldn't go to the wedding, and wouldn't...I wouldn't go to the wedding, and wouldn't participate. Have you asked her mom if her daughter knows about his history, and past? To me a brain injury is often times a lot different than an organic natural disability. I would avoid contact altogether. I knew a man like that many years ago, and was so happy when he left our area. He was very untrustworthy. It is sad that this man had a bad childhood, and injury, but not worth putting your own self at risk. I wouldn't feel guilty.Coryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15564732166724462968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-405228310930101073.post-84175922409939828132011-10-20T13:27:43.212-04:002011-10-20T13:27:43.212-04:00Oh my gosh. To be honest, I have known people lik...Oh my gosh. To be honest, I have known people like the guy you are talking about. I just don't even know what to say here. Why are the bride's family NOT coming? Do they suspect something? Prayers, prayer, prayers....I don't blame you at all for not going to the wedding. <br /><br />This is very scary. My husband was raised in an abusive home. He left at age 18 and hardly looked back, except when I made him, because I didn't "get it". I let his family in to my life, but he kept telling me not to (and it was a mistake to let some of them in). My husband is the kindest, gentlest man and so forgiving and accepting and accomodating...SOOOO different from his family. <br /><br />I really just don't even know what to say. I doubt you can talk to the girl without enraging him. Pray. If he is in your church, talk to your pastor...even if he is not in your church, I would talk to you pastor. That always helps me in dealing with certain issues that come up in Jason's family.Theresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17539646468375983846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-405228310930101073.post-71919071733029326922011-10-20T10:49:50.118-04:002011-10-20T10:49:50.118-04:00I guess my first question would be "do either...I guess my first question would be "do either of these people profess to be Christians?" If one does and the other doesn't, then that's the first red flag. <br /><br />If neither does or both do, the next question is, "has anyone told the girl about this guy's history?" If not, someone should really sit her down and give her the facts. She probably wouldn't believe/listen to the person, but at least she could never say she hadn't been forewarned.<br /><br />This is really scary. Verbal and emotional abuse is bad enough, but add potential physical abuse and it's nasty.<br /><br />I don't blame you for being so cautious. It's sad for the girl to feel so alone, but maybe that should be a clue to her. <br /><br />I wouldn't go. And I wouldn't lie or make excuses. I'd just say that I don't feel that this is a good situation and I don't want to give the impression that I'm condoning their marriage by being in attendance. <br /><br />Just my .02 worth.imagesisee.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com