tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-405228310930101073.post7016747372748428409..comments2023-06-16T10:12:31.746-04:00Comments on SHE Says: More Pathetic Parenting~she~http://www.blogger.com/profile/00517811416862125834noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-405228310930101073.post-45143832622164495372011-01-22T15:29:02.919-05:002011-01-22T15:29:02.919-05:00Mimsie, thanks. I would rather be remembered for ...Mimsie, thanks. I would rather be remembered for having a kind heart than a rockin' body or augmented chest. :)<br /><br />Mel, you are so right. I never thought about the fact that moving away from their mother might be the best thing for these boys. And you're right...my son has learned some valuable lessons. I think he actually appreciates me more. Thanks for being my glass half full gal!~she~https://www.blogger.com/profile/00517811416862125834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-405228310930101073.post-67855018491678200482011-01-21T21:21:07.628-05:002011-01-21T21:21:07.628-05:00The mother sounds almost numb. I cannot imagine l...The mother sounds almost numb. I cannot imagine losing a child so I haven't got a clue what she must be going through. Maybe she is trying to detach herself from everything that has the possibility of reminding her of the child she lost. I don't know what I would do if it were me...but I do know I wouldn't be moving on so quickly. I agree with the above statement...you have a kind heart. Maybe the best place for the other children is NOT with this woman. And you do have every right to feel the way you do about it. It stinks to watch kids go through things like that. Your son has probably learned some good life lessons from all of this.The Guru Mama Melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04380906927923281914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-405228310930101073.post-30911658804892946062011-01-21T17:47:19.477-05:002011-01-21T17:47:19.477-05:00You have a very kind heart.....You have a very kind heart.....Mimsienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-405228310930101073.post-9693571842715793442011-01-21T11:54:13.883-05:002011-01-21T11:54:13.883-05:00Taking in the boy is not a realistic possibility.....Taking in the boy is not a realistic possibility...it's just something I wish I could do. Yes, his natural father wants him but I question his parenting ability also. I wish the father lived closer so that the boy could come over here as often as he would like. But since they live 30 minutes away, I'm sure he will switch school districts soon and we may never see him again. He came over after school yesterday and it just made me sad for him. I told him he's always welcome.~she~https://www.blogger.com/profile/00517811416862125834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-405228310930101073.post-22736214499592939702011-01-21T11:34:52.538-05:002011-01-21T11:34:52.538-05:00Selfishness with a capital "S" on the pa...Selfishness with a capital "S" on the part of the mother is my quick reaction. Do parents ever stop to think about the permanent emotional scars they will leave on their kids? Taking the boy in permanently, even if it were legally possible, would not be healthy for your own family, IMHO, but.....if it were me, I would let my son know his friend is always welcome to come to our house to visit, to escape to a "sanctuary" of family normalcy and emotional warmth from time to time.Mimsienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-405228310930101073.post-15673749464003610352011-01-21T10:58:03.153-05:002011-01-21T10:58:03.153-05:00I swear God always shows us what we need to hear o...I swear God always shows us what we need to hear or read or see...<br /><br />I have been struggling with something similar. In my case, it's my husband's cousin who I was very close with for a long time. When I first became close with her it was because the rest of the family had basically just distanced themselves from her and she started calling me crying. I could not understand a family abandoning one of their own when the person was in obvious crisis. I thought when the current mess she had gotten herself into was over she would be in a better place. She really seemed to want to live a good Christian life. But over the next 7 years, I watched her get out of one bad situation only to put herself and her family into another...and cry about it. She would be annoyed if I gave any advice, I was supposed to listen and agree with her. Over time, i just could not do it anymore and I pulled away, as all of the other family members had done. I tried to avoid a confrontation, but that is how she is...and she said I was a bad Christian and judgmental. that was a year ago. I've been working on myself not to feel bad about it... She lives on the opposite coast from us and is coming here on vacation...and I am not sure what to do...I do not want to distance my kids from her kids, I want that connection with her children, unfortunately that means opening myself up to her as well...<br /><br />I have to say that every day, I find a blog, a book, a Bible reading that makes me think I need to just hold still and do nothing right now.<br /><br />I think that if you are patient, in time the answer will come to you.<br /><br />Taking the child in would be wonderful. But does his natural father not want to? Would you be opening your family up to something with this family?Theresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03570796770714543897noreply@blogger.com