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~my thoughts about life~



Thursday, May 12, 2011

A Step Back in Time

Yesterday, I was fortunate enough to accompany Big Sis on a field trip.  We went to a historical village that taught the kids what life was like way back when.  Some of the buildings were from the mid-1800s. 

We learned how the pioneers made brooms.  We visited a blacksmith, weaver, glassblower, and potter.  There was a man representing a doctor, a sample general store, and a school room.  The students were enlisted into the Union Army and taught how to hold a musket.  They marched in line and fired at the chaperones (Reds). 

We enjoyed a picnic lunch in the shade of wonderfully fragrant trees.  My daughter and I walked hand in hand and she was proud to be my partner.  We had gorgeous weather in the 80s- something I have been waiting a very long time on.



The last time I visited this site was on an 8th grade field trip. It was much more enjoyable yesterday than it was when I was a snotty teenager.

Then, of course, there was a smelly bus ride back to the school.  But it was a practically perfect day.

Wednesday, May 11, 2011

My Life is a Soundtrack

K asked what a typical day was like for me.  (I doubt she realized how much detail she would get.)

In my life, there is music constantly playing on my radio on in my mind.  First thing in the morning, when my heavy eyes can finally open from the long night of sleep, I look out the window.  If it's raining out, my soundtrack plays If all the raindrops were lemondrops and gumdrops, oh what a rain that would be.  If the sun is peeking through the rain clouds and that fresh after rain smell permeates the air, I begin singing I can see clearly now, the rain is gone.

As I wake up the kids, I can hardly resist singing an old preschool song Gilly, gilly, gilly good morning, good morning to you.  (That's what you get when you're a mom of four with an early childhood education degree.)  Fortunately for my kids, I don't sing during breakfast.  That's a busy time of pouring cereal and milk while packing the day's lunches.

Baby Girl is usually getting up around this time and is hollering for some milk (or sweet tea, or goldfish crackers, or Dora gummies....she's a regular junk food junkie).  I sing All aboard the choo choo train to distract her from the junk food I am not giving her.  If she's in a particularly grouchy mood, I sing You're a mean one, Mr. Grinch.

On the way to school, the only singing is with the radio.  If by chance we hear Single Ladies, both girls and I have our hands up in the air flashing our bling.  On Fridays, however, I occasionally remember to sing The Friday Song.  It's a song my uncle invented when we were little.  He sang it at the top of his lungs every Friday on the way to school.  We pretended to be so embarrassed but secretly would have been very disappointed had he forgotten to sing.  The words changed every time; you really never knew what he was going to sing.  So when he took my boys to school for a couple years, he revived The Friday Song.  I try to keep up the tradition, when I remember.  After dropping off the kids, a song like The Hallelujah Chorus may enter my mind.

At that point, I have breakfast and try once again to get Baby Girl to eat.  She typically picks cereal right out of my bowl with her dirty hands.  I like to eat, eat, eat apples and bananas.

After breakfast, I check my email, blog, and catch up.  Pandora may be playing at that time, if I'm not hearing Wizard of Oz or Finding Nemo songs from the television.  When my music plays, it is usually Michael Buble', Harry Connick Jr., or Frank Sinatra.  Some days, I turn on the gospel channel.  Other days, I crave Maroon 5 and Taylor Swift.  I love so many different genres.

Next is house cleaning time.  I must clean the kitchen first every day.  I can't stand for it to be messy.  Unfortunately, the Barney Clean Up song is what I'm singing.  I throw in a load of laundry and pick up whatever toys Baby Girl has spewed about.

By this time, I'm starving for lunch.  I refuse to eat with Baby Girl sitting on my lap.  So I hold off my lunch until I can get her in bed.  Usually she has peanut butter crackers or something equally unhealthy first.  I release a great sigh or give a hearty fist pump accompanied by a "Yes!" in anticipation of my hour and a half of peace.  I am a TV watcher during lunch. 

After lunch, I clean up and check email again with soft music playing.  Baby Girl will wake up during this time and begin knocking on her door.  I don't know why she does this but I think it's adorable.  She will stand there and knock until I come release her from her nap prison.  I may sing the song written for her when she was born.  It's her name song to the tune of The Addams Family.

Son #1 gets home around this time.  I do not sing to him, as he hates it.  He is at that cool cat age and would be mortified to hear his mother sing.  He takes off his shoes, jacket, and backpack and throws them anywhere and everywhere.  Then he goes upstairs to not clean his room.  After we finish talking about his day, Son #2 and Big Sis get home from school.  Now there are backpacks, lunch boxes, and clothes all over my living room.  I get irritated at this time and yell for everyone to clean up their stuff and begin their chores.  The boys fold laundry or empty the dishwasher.  Big Sis straightens up the many shoes on the rug.  She is like a cop determining who has too many pairs of shoes on the rug and places them on the stairs to be taken up.

I don't know where the time goes at this point.  It takes off at super sonic speed and before I know it, it's time to start dinner.  Lately, the kids and I have been eating alone.  Hubby gets home between 6:30 and 7:30.  He reheats a plate of food.  If I'm home, I will sit and talk with him.  But usually, the kids and I are at an activity, at church, or out doing something.  It seems like we get very few nights off.  Sometimes Hubby joins us wherever we are.  If not, we see him for a few minutes at night and then the bedtime ritual starts.

That is a long process.  It starts with a calm mother requesting that children get ready for bed.  When that doesn't work, the calm mother turns into a firm mother.  Next, an irritated mother shows up.  If the children still aren't in bed, the mother begins yelling and screaming and becomes irate.  Baby Girl is placed back in her bed multiple times with bedtime prayers.  She has excuses like "I tell you good night." or "I see Daddy."  or "I need my baby."

When that is over, I sing Freedom or simply crash on the couch.  Sometimes, Hubby and I have a few minutes to ourselves.  Often, he goes right to bed in anticipation of his 5:00 AM alarm.  I remain downstairs until all the stress of the day has melted away.  Then I crash too.  About ten minutes later (it seems), my alarm goes off and the madness begins again.

Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Red and Yellow, Black and White...

A generic picture I found online to convey this memory
When I was little, there was a weekly event at church that I eagerly anticipated.  It was called The Penny Parade.  Every Sunday morning, after Sunday School class and before dismissal, all the children would gather into the sanctuary for offering, the choir and special singing, and The Penny Parade.  Two very special children were chosen to stand in the front of the church to hold the special golden offering pans.  The organ would begin playing a song like Jesus Loves the Little Children.  At that cue, all the children of the world would march up to the front with hands full of loose change.  You dumped it into the offering pan with a huge smile on your face.  Then you ran back to your parents, so proud of your contribution.

It was a great activity.  It taught the children how to give cheerfully and made them feel that even their little bit of money was important.

This afternoon, the memories of Penny Parade were brought to mind.  I was helping Baby Girl clean up her blocks.  I held the bucket for her and started singing an old Penny Parade song.  It was a tactic my mom used to get us to clean up our toys.  One of us would hold the bucket/box/container while the other kid(s) would sing and pick up the toys.  It made clean up time more fun when you pretended you were repeatedly tossing pennies in the golden pan.  Baby Girl, however, did not know that the singing of that song was a signal to start cleaning up.  But I enjoyed the memory anyway.

I am a person who welcomes change, but The Penny Parade is one tradition I would excitedly bring back.  If I was in charge.

Monday, May 9, 2011

My Mother's Day

I took the day off yesterday and this picture shows what happened.

Turns out, when Mama don't clean the house, don't no one clean the house. 

I was presented with a lovely bouquet of roses and a gift card to TJ Maxx.  Typically, I don't receive such elaborate gifts for Mother's Day.  But my brother happened to call Hubby while he was at the store picking out my gift.  My brother said he didn't get anything for his wife and wanted Hubby to pick something up.  (This was Saturday night.)  He asked Hubby to pick up a Mother's Day card and a bag of M&Ms.  "That's it?" Hubby asked.  "Yeah, she likes peanut butter M&Ms.  That will be good."  So I'm guessing that Hubby felt sorry for his poor sister-in-law who only had a bag of M&Ms to open on Sunday morning and decided to make up for it by getting me something fabulous. 

But my favorite gift was something handmade by Son #2 at school.  It was a "Top Ten Reasons Why I Love My Mom" book.  Please allow me to share the reasons with you.

Reason #10:
I love my mom because she cleans the house every day.  (This is very true.  I believe the picture shows me in my nice red blouse washing dishes.)

Reason #9:
I love my mom because she buys stuff like cloths and food for me.  (A somewhat self-centered reason, but that's OK.)

Reason #8:
I love my mom because she drives me to school and plays the temp. game with me.  (I must explain.  Each morning when we get into the car, we look at the thermostat on the dash and try to predict what it will read when we arrive at school.  We even assign a random guess to Baby Girl who sometimes wins.)

Reason #7:
I love my mom because she cooks good meals like pepercosh.  (Paprikash, his favorite dinner.)

Reason #6:
I love my mom because she gives me a home to live in.  (Well, that's mostly Dad, seeing as how I do not have an income.  But I'll surely take the credit.)

Reason #5:
I love my mom because she loves Chipotle.  (True dat!)

Reason #4:
I love my mom because she gives me cool presents on my birthday and Christmas.  (See note on Reason #9.)

Reason #3:
I love my mom because she helps me when I need help.  (Of course this is true, but it was one of my favorites simply because of the art work.  Check him out lying on the ground calling out for help!)

Reason #2:
I love my mom because she takes care of me.  (OK, somewhat similar to the last reason, but I'll take it.)

Reason #1:
I love my mom because I have alot of fun with her.  (This is my very favorite illustration!  It shows a special game between the two of us.  We karate kick each other in slow motion in an attempt to chop the other's body parts off.  In this picture, you can see that I am lying on the ground, with a clown nose, chopping off his leg.  Seeing the smile on his face lets me know that it must not be too painful of an experience.  We tell each other which body parts we've just chopped off.  When he chops off my legs, I fall to the ground and flail about.  When I chop off his arms, he attempts to further destroy me by hitting me with his torso.  Yes, it may sound like a violent game to you, but it's something special between the two of us which incurs a lot of laughing.  And obviously it's made a strong enough impact on him to make it the number one reason that he loves me.  I hope it's a tradition we can hold on to and treasure the memories forever.)

Now I have to go try to recover from the Mother's Day weekend.  I've got a lot of work to do...

Sunday, May 8, 2011

Chip Off the Old Block

That's what I am.  I am my mother's daughter.

Someone gave me a picture they took of my mom and me at the Mother-Daughter Banquet I recently directed.  My mom passed the torch after 30 years of doing the same thing.  I am proud to be like her.  No one does silly like my mama.

So in honor of Mother's Day, I thought I would share a pic of me with mine.  We may not look alike, but I become more like her the older I get.  (Great...pretty soon I'll start annoying myself!)   

Happy Mother's Day to all the Mamas out there!  Have a great day!

Saturday, May 7, 2011

Weekend Rambling

I got the great idea to take all the grandkids picture for my mom for Mother's Day.  Why go to a studio?  I'm a decent photographer; I'll just do it myself!  My niece was grouchy.  She told me so.  Son #2 was silly and kept making faces.  Baby Girl was distracted and wouldn't look at the camera.  Son #1 actually wasn't too bad but Big Sis looked bored.  Not one picture came out great of everyone.  This is the best we got.

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Baby Girl is eating me out of house and home with peanut butter on Town House crackers.  The key here is that She's Eating!

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Now that I'm much less busy, my house is much messier.  How does that work?  1+1 does not always = 2, I guess.

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Yesterday, the kids had Muffins for Mom at school.  They think it's totally awesome.  I was just proud to look around the room and consider myself one of the nicer looking moms there.  (No, I'm not vain.  I just got dressed and did my hair this morning.)  It was interesting to see a drop-dead gorgeous girl I graduated with who is now chubby and very old looking.  I really hope I'm not that old looking.

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I know I talked about it in my very last post but I am so excited for our trip to Las Vegas!  Hubby wanted me to reserve our room under the name "Nick Papagiorgio." 

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K from Two Adults, One Brown Baby just asked her readers to submit random questions they would like her to answer.  I thought that would be fun.  What would you like to know about me?  I'll try to answer them in an upcoming post. 

Friday, May 6, 2011

Crystal Anniversary

I'm too young to have been married 15 years already!  Well, actually, I kind of am.  I was only 19 when I married, just a couple weeks from my 20th birthday.  It was a cold, rainy day in May - the best day of my life.  Afterward, we went to Disney World where people didn't believe we were old enough to be honeymooners.

We decided to do 15 years big.  Fewer people are achieving 15 years of marriage, especially at my age.  So yesterday, I spent the entire day trying to plan a trip for us to celebrate.  Since it was less than 14 days until departure, that feat was not easy.  I absolutely despise travel planning!  I am so freakishly meticulous about searching every place possible to find the very best deal.  That's why it took all stinkin' day long!

Finally, I gave in and realized I would not likely find anything better on jim-bobs-travel.com.  I booked a trip- Viva Las Vegas, baby!  A friend of Hubby's asked, "Why the @#*! are you going to Vegas?  You don't drink, party, or gamble!"  True.  The answer: because we want to.  We've never been there and we want to experience it once in our lifetimes without the kids.  It was cheaper than flying to New York, Chicago, or many destinations closer to us.  I am totally excited and can't wait!  We've had nothing but cold rain here lately and I am pumped to experience 85 sunny degrees!

So that is why there was no post yesterday.

Hubby thinks we should renew our vows with Elvis.  I think not.  I hope to share lots of pics upon my return!

Wednesday, May 4, 2011

Better Late than Never

I know all the hype has been over for a few days now, but here is an oh-so-sweet picture of the kids and me enjoying the Royal Wedding together.  (Yes, we are in our pajamas.)  Big Sis looked forward to it all day.  She couldn't wait to put on her favorite princess dress.  She nearly passed out when I gave her a fancy hat to wear.  She ran upstairs to change into another dress that matched better.  I found her an old pair of my Easter gloves from when I was little (I save way too much).  Which brought me to a full-length pair of satin gloves I wore in a friend's wedding.  The only other hats I had were cute hats I wear regularly. 

Then Son #2 asked what boys wear to fancy English weddings.  "Top hats," I replied.  "Do we have any?" he asked.  "Actually, there's one in the garage!"  He retrieved the way too big plastic hat and filled it with newspaper to help it stay on his head.  (I know he wouldn't have done these things had his older brother been home for the event.) 

We picked out our tea cups but Big Sis didn't want hot tea.  Instead, she enjoyed iced tea in a fancy goblet.  (In the pic, I'm trying to stick out my pinkie, but that was actually kind of difficult.  I almost spilled my hot tea.)  The memories made were priceless!

Tuesday, May 3, 2011

Today's + & -

+  Crazy Life is over!  I survived my two huge events of the past month.  I am so ready for life to return back to  normal!
-  I am exhausted and totally worn out from said craziness.
+  Last night's banquet went swimmingly well.  The 200 women in attendance seemed to have a good time and gave me rave reviews.
-  I had to depend on people to watch my kids while I set up, practiced, and hosted the banquet.  Hubby was pretty frustrated with me when I got home.  The 4 kids just did him in.
+  Our theme was Cowboys and Indians.  My group of 15 teenage girls dressed in costume.  I was the Sheriff and looked pretty fancy in my costume too.  But I now have cowboy hats all over my house and I don't know whose they are.
-  Due to how busy I was, I didn't take one picture!  Isn't that horrible?
+  I do, however, have some video and will share a short clip with you.  Now you can see what I do.  I wrote a comedy play, which was basically a musical.  I borrow familiar tunes and write my own words.  Here's one of my favorite songs from the evening.


+  My potted grass turned out lovely and made perfect centerpieces.  We played a hot potato game in the middle of the program to give away the centerpieces to one person at each table.
-  I had to unload a minivan packed full of junk to our storage space in the pouring rain today.
+  I didn't have to cook supper today!  My sweet aunt is cooking for me tonight.
-  Hubby won't make it home in time for dinner. 
+  He felt very guilty for being mean to me last night and apologized sincerely.  I will probably get a foot rub and possibly flowers out of it tonight!  :)

Well, that's my life for right now.  Hope yours is going well.

Monday, May 2, 2011

Rookie Parenting

I was watching a close friend who recently became a parent for the second time.  Five years ago, she was one of those Super Moms.  Her life revolved around her daughter.  The baby only had breast milk for six months, then organic baby food.  Cheerios were not introduced until around a year of age.  The second time around, things are much different.  Her son was crawling around on the floor on Easter (she would have never let her daughter crawl...there might be germs, lint, stairs 50 feet away).  He picked up a chocolate egg and began gnawing on it, foil and all.  His mom simply sighed that she had messy hands to clean up and allowed him to proceed. 

It made me start thinking about how differently I do things with #4.  The other day, she colored on the wall.  All I did was shrug.  Several walls in our house (and the entire inside door of the van) are colored on.  So why bother scrubbing until the paint comes off?  We'll just call it artistic expression.

This same friend of mine just enrolled her daughter in Kindergarten for next year.  I commented that our daughters might be on the same bus.  "Oh no," she replied.  "I will be driving her myself."  Oh yeah...I remember those days.  I was appauled at the thought of my first child riding on a smelly, hot bus with delinquent children throwing leftover bologna sandwiches and teaching him swear words.  But now, I have three in school.  I can't imagine parking a block away and traipsing through the snow to wait in the long parent line at the door of the school.  When they walk in our
front door after school, I'm surprised it's already over.

Other things I did as a rookie parent:
  • Name brand diapers-  I paid an extra couple dollars per box for things that are used to catch my child's excrement.
  • White clothing-  Now as a parent of 4, I refuse to buy any articles of clothing that are white.  I much prefer dirt-colored things.
  • Pediatrician calls- I used to call the doctor for every sniffle, sneeze, or bump on the head.  Now, I give the child a little TLC, a kiss on the boo boo, and send them on their way.
  • Educational TV- My first son rarely watched TV.  When he did, it was PBS or some other educational program.  The television stays on for a good part of the day while Baby Girl plays.  Sometimes it's the only way I can get stuff done.
  • Nighttime checks- When Son #1 went five hours or more without waking up to eat, I would sneak into his room to make sure he was still breathing.  When #4 was a newborn, I was guilty of saying, "If she's not living now, she'll still be not living in the morning.  I might as well get my rest."  (I know, that's horrible!)
  • No sugar- My first child didn't have a taste of sugar until his first bite of cake at his birthday party.  He still turned out to be a picky eater.  So now, I allow Baby Girl to eat pretty much whatever she actually will eat.  She is the youngest of four picky eaters.  No matter what I do, no kid of mine will ever eat well.
  • Expensive toys- For his first Christmas, I spent a fortune on toys for my first kid.  He had every educational toy there was.  All of the toys were neatly organized in colored bins and on shelves and contained all the pieces.  Baby Girl's toys consist of a basket full of things like tupperware, empty chapstick tubes, puzzle pieces, random kitchen utensils she's pulled out of drawers, missing pieces to other toys, and shoes. 
  • Professional pictures every 3 months- Back then, I could whip out a stack of pictures documenting every month of his life.  Now, I can only whip out my cell phone to show you a picture of what she looked like 6 months ago when she colored all over her tummy.  Son #2 had to take a family picture into school.  I searched the house and couldn't find anything printed that would work.  I have millions of digital images, but nothing that was printed.  I considered sending him in with my laptop.
  • Fighting battles- As a first time mom, I didn't know how to choose my battles.  I thought I had to win every fight.  But now, I realize I have to let the unimportant things slide.  For example, right now Baby Girl is wearing a bathing suit instead of underwear.  Why?  Because she wants to.  Is it really worth the energy???
What have you learned throughout your years of parenting?