I always figured I'd be one of the strictest parents on the block. My parents were very strict and I came to realize that's the only way to parent. Both my brother and I turned out well, and my friends who had very lax parents all have issues today.
Since then, I've had to break the news to parents probably a dozen times that we don't do overnighters. Likewise, we don't allow children to sleep over at our house.
It only takes one accusation and a person's life can be ruined. I know two people who were accused of illicit behavior and their entire family swears by their innocence. I also know of two fathers of my peers who have recently been convicted of abuse of children. I spent the night at one of their homes.
When you have an unbreakable rule set, you never have to worry. It's better to be safe than sorry. I don't care if some school mom thinks I'm weird because my daughter can't attend a sleepover. My daughter will never be the one who was abused at that party. Even if the parents rank at the top of my list, you never know who their brother-in-law or next door neighbor might be.
One of Big Sis' friends has a birthday sleepover every year. I just don't understand why they need to sleep together to have fun. If they're supposed to be asleep anyway, what fun could they be having? Also, if this little girl has a sleepover every year, where is there to go from there? By the time she's 16, she'll be bored with sleepovers and want something incredible and exciting.
OK, I'll step off my soapbox for the day. Do I have any supporters? Or are you all offended that I won't let my kids spend the night at your house? :)
The Overprotective Mother