Friday, January 21, 2011
More Pathetic Parenting
Shortly after that, the mother showed up at my house in a Land Rover. They had always driven modest cars and now they were separated. But Son #1 explained that the car belonged to the mother's boyfriend who was a doctor. They were living together. Nice. Now I'm starting to get a little judgemental. It may be beside the point but this doctor would rank several slots below the mother and both fathers on an attractiveness scale. Now, I'm not saying she's a gold digger...
So over the weekend, the two oldest boys were asked to move out and live with their natural father. He wasn't available to pick them up at the time so it was the ex-step-father who temporarily took them in. Something is just not right with this picture. The step-father lives locally, the mother now lives approximately 15 minutes from the boys' school, and the father lives 30 minutes away. The two sons will likely be pulled out of the school they've attended their entire life.
It saddens me so that I almost feel like offering to take them in myself. Am I being too judgemental or is this mother totally out of line? She seems to put her own needs and desires so far above those of her children. Now, I've never walked in her shoes. But I hope I would have seen the needs of my living children and tried to help them through. They have also endured devastation.